QAQNA: Lessons in a Dialogue

Dialogue Dr. Ellen Weber, in her recent post, gave all of us with "blog-block" a list of great ideas to get the creative juices flowing. Number six on the list was recalling a dialogue between co-workers who collaborate well. It got me thinking about our group's President, and my partner, Scott Wier.

I dialogue and collaborate with Scott on a daily basis. Scott has a brilliant head for business that's powerfully coupled with a heart for his fellow group members and clients. Scott and I have known each other for 25 years and I'm blessed to be partnered with someone who is not only a valued associate but also a true friend. Here's what I've learned about in my on-going dialogue with Scott:

"I'm thinking about...What do you think?" Collaboration is a dialogue. I value Scott's willingness to share his ideas and ask for opinions before implementation. He listens to opinions and clearly weighs them into his decision making.
"Here's what concerns me." When working out ideas, he never rejects your thoughts out-of-hand but offers his honest and frank concerns. Rather than shutting down the dialogue, this opens it up to response that continues the conversation: "I understand your concerns. Let me address them."
"Go for it." Giving people empowerment and encouragement for their ideas and initiatives should be stated clearly. It provides tangible value and motivation.
"What do you need from me?" Scott is a model of servant-leadership. This phrase isn't just a question he asks when we're talking about new initiatives. It's a question he asks at the end of every conversation.